Challenges are unavoidable in marriage life they keep on arising. There is no perfect marriage. There are those who will solve their issues alone and have their marriage life continue while there are those who will add up breaking up. Of late many professionals have come up to offer the services. With their increase it has become a challenge to many in choosing the best who are not only after your money but quality services. If well followed there are factors that will help you settle on the best counselor.
With the increase in their number, this has brought many quacks in the business. A valid and recognized license is something you should make sure the counselor has. You have to make sure you choose a counselor with a specialized education, a few years of experience and training in helping couples.
By asking to see the license you will be certain that the counselor has qualified to address the issues you are facing. Apart from having a valid license it is advisable that you conduct a personal research. You can conduct a research and get to know how many couples the counselor has interacted with and the results and how many similar cases the counselor has handled. You can ask for a list of people the counselor has met, call some randomly, and get to hear their opinions. Positive feedback and a low number of breakups will help you rate the services the counselor offer thus a good decision.
Many styles and techniques can be used to solve the issue in hand. To come up with a solution, evidence based or scientifically based treatment protocol is widely used. Get to know if the counselor is aware of the style and if he or she has used it before. If the counselor does not use it, this does not mean he or she is not fit with the job. Enquire more on the styles he or she uses if they do not use it. Defending the style they use should be easy to them, ask questions and get to understand. Engaging professional counselors does not guarantee you to a hundred percent success rate but there are higher chances compared to engaging a quack.
Counselors cannot only help you save your marriage when challenges emerge but also strengthen your marital relationship. The couple should be given a chance to present their concerns and fears without judgement and get pushed gently to bring up their underlying feelings. The counselor must be in a position to work as a mediator between the conflicting parties. Everyone should be given a chance to be heard and the session kept productive by the counselor